Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Sedat'in Gozyasi...Sedat's Tear...

Bu resimdeki gozyasinin hikayesini cogunuz biliyorsunuzdur ama yinede yazayim,
Annem mezarlikta Sedat icin aglarken gozunden suzulen bir gozyasi tanesi yerde duran Sedat'in resminin tam ustune dustu, Allah'in takdiri Sedat'in tam gozune isabet etti, olagan bir sey diye baktim ama camin ustunde duz bir sekilde asagiya inmesi gerekirken gercekten Sedat'in gozyasiymis gibi yanagin kenarindaki kivrimdanda sekilli bir bicimde asagiya inmesi orada yanliz olmadigimizin bir deliliydi ve sanki Sedat bir seyler soylemek ister gibiydi ve o anda resmini cektim, boyle bir raslanti veya tesaduf ancak hayal alemlerinde olur sanirdim,
Sedatin dunyada en son bile istemeyecegi sey annesinin aglamasi idi sanki karsilik verdi,
Allah'a emenat ol Efendi Kaptan
Suat

Sedat Amca...Uncle Sedat...


Sedat Amca
Sedat&Tolga
Sedat&Tolga 2
Balikci Sedat Amca...Fisherman Uncle Sedat...

Emir and Sedat

Emir Abi is so fond of Sedat. I found this picture and knew that it would bring back great memories for emir and Ozlem. Sedat is such a good role model for Emir: fun-loving, kind, gentle, hard-working, funny, athletic. what mother wouldn't want their son to be like Sedat? Sedat and Ozlem were great to Emir this summer, welcoming him to their home like a member of their own family. Of course Big Okan and Onur, Ilayda and Little Okan were crazy about Emir - we still inspire them at dinner time to eat so they'll 'grow big like Emir'. Sedat is an inspiration to all of his friends and to the little people in his life. He lived each day with his unique sense of joy and gratitiude, cherishing the people who were dear to him. I remember him talking about our kids, our lives, and saying on many occaisions, 'Man, we're so lucky! Mashallah.'
 
We miss you, Sedat.


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Condolences from Simone & Family in Hamburg

From: "Simone Sever" <simonesever@yahoo.com>

Dear Alisa & Hakan,

my friend Guelcan helped me translate our condolences for the family & friends of Sedat.


Sevgili Sedatin Ailesi ve Arkadaslarina,

Hamburgda bizde sok gecirdik, Sedatin aniden ölümünden duyunca.
Biz Sedatla 2007 yilin Mayis ayinda, Onurun Dogumgününde tanisabildik.
Cok üzgünüz, Düsüncelerimizle sizlerle beraberiz.
Sizlere Güc ve Cesaret dileriz önünüzdeki Yolar icin.
Bütün Sevgilerimizi sizlere yolluyoruz.

Sizlerin
Simone, Steff, Caesar ve David

sedat koseoglu

1 Eylul 2007.Sedat'in Helyum Gazi Denemesi

Monday, September 24, 2007

Eric J. Jaworski & Matt (Sedat).Posted by Suat Koseoglu

Suat -

I can not begin to tell you how very sorry I was to hear of Matt's passing. When Andre and my old friends at Hamburg Sud called me, it broke my heart to hear the news. I want you to know how I will always remember him.

As Matt may have told you, he an I worked at Hanjin together for over a year, until I moved on to a better opportunity with Hamburg Sud. When we had an opening in our operation department at HSD, I immediately thought of Matt and contacted him with the good news. A few weeks later, we were sitting across from each other for what would be three years at HSD. In that time I learned allot about Matt and also allot from him.
I quickly learned from him how devoted he was to his wife and children. There was never a day that passed, where Matt wasn't talking about Okan and Onur. In fact over time that same sentiment rubbed off on me when my son Justin and daughter Olivia were born.
I also remember Matt sharing pictures and stories about his vacations to Turkey. He would always return from Turkey with a small gift for the guys in the group. Like for instance the "Seeing Eye" key chain which I still have to this day.
Matt always kept things "interesting." For instance, I will always remember how particular he was when he went out to lunch with us and ordered from the menu. Let's just say there were many a restaurant and many a waitress who probably needed therapy after all of the changes that Matt would make to his order before it being served! We would always have a good chuckle about it.
Matt also loved to keep me on my toes as well. He treated me like a little brother by always teasing me about what I ate for lunch, or my clothes that I wore for the day, or my stories about my wife and family. On the outside I would of course get frustrated and mad, but he always kept me laughing within. I knew he wouldn't spend the time joking with me if he didn't respect and appreciate me. No matter what happened, if Matt and I got into a disagreement, we could always take some private time away from the group to talk about it and settle our differences. We always returned back to our desks as friends. For this I hold the deepest respect for him as not all people you work with can do this! I used to always joke with Matt that he "loved to stir things up in the group!"
Matt's love for soccer was always apparent whenever the World Cup would start. He was always talking about the games he played on the weekends with his friends in Paterson. And in some cases always tried to get me to play too. I also remember Matt playing soccer with Okan at a barbecue that we both attended way back when. At that time, my wife (and Ozlem too) were pregnant. My wife with my first, and Ozlem with Onur and I couldn't wait to do the same as Matt! Playing with my son on a nice weekend afternoon.

My only regret, was that a year and a half ago, I chose a new path for my career and I had to leave Hamburg Sud. I deeply regret that during the year and half that has elapsed, that I didn't stay in better communication with him. We both had advanced in our careers, and I guess we got wrapped up to the point where we didn't have much time to keep in touch.

I will deeply miss my friend. It was an honor to have shared the time that I did with him.

I know for sure that his spirit and personality will live on through his sons Okan and Onur and the world is lucky to have that. My wife and I will keep Ozlem, Okan, Onur, and your family in our prayers. We hope that you will have Matt's strength in this very difficult time.

Pls let me know if there is anything we can do to help.

Thanks and Best Regards-
Eric J. Jaworski
Trade Manager Intra-America Service RoRo Division
NYK Line (North America) Inc.
office: 201-553-3741
cell: 201-314-2348
email: eric.jaworski@na.nykline.com

1 Eylul 2007 Melis'in Dogumgunu Partisinde Sonra Parkta...Picture Posted by Ufuk Kisa

Melis'in Dogumgunu 1 Eylul,2007...Melis' Birthday.September 1,2007.Pictures Posted by Ufuk Kisa




Tolga's Birthday, 2007...Pictures Posted by Ufuk Kisa






Sedat Agbi, may you rest in peace knowing you are missed deeply, every single moment since you are gone... Picture Post # 10 by Onur Uranli (Apple Picking @ NJ Nov 2006 & @ Ilayda's 3rd B-day Nov 2005)

 

We are lucky to have known you Sedat Agbi - Picture Post # 9 by Onur Uranli (Thanksgiving @ Uranli's, Nov 2005)

 

We miss you Sedat Agbi - Picture Post # 8 by Onur Uranli (@Koseoglu's, Aug 2005)

 

We miss you Sedat Agbi - Picture # 7 by Onur Uranli (@Koseoglu's, Aug 2005)

 

We will always love you Sedat Agbi... - Picture # 5 by Onur Uranli (@Little Okan's B-day, Mar 2005)

 

Sedat, we miss you dearly... - Picture # 5 by Onur Uranli (@AMNH , NYC Feb 2007)

 

Sedat Agbi Seni Cok Ozluyoruz - Picture # 4 by Uranli Ailesi (@Ilayda's 4th B-day Nov 2006)

 

Sedat Agbi Seni Cok Ozluyoruz # 3 - Uranli Ailesi

 

Sedat Agbi Seni Cok Ozluyoruz

 

Sedat Agbi Seni Cok Ozluyoruz

 

RE: Sedat Agbi Seni Cok Ozluyoruz

 

Friday, September 21, 2007

Little Okan Missing Sedat Amca

We're driving this afternoon to pick up Big Okan and Onur. Out of th eblue little Okan says to me, "Sedat Amca cok hasta (Sedat Amca is very sick). Iyilesecek (He's going to get better)."

I say to him, "Honey, Sedat Amca was very sick and now he died. He won't get better. He won't come back. Remember we went to the mosque and pray ed for him, then we went to the cemetery and buried him?"

He says to me: "Yes, Anne, I remember. Ama ne zaman gelecek? (But when is he coming back?)" --sigh--

Later this evening he saw a picture of Sedat at Yeter Teyze's house. "Look Anne, there's Sedat Amca. He died."

"Yes, honey, he died."

He blows kisses at Sedat and says, "Optum seni, Sedat Amca (I kiss you, Sedat Amca). Ne zaman evime geleceksin (when are you coming to my house)?"

According to the research we've done, most kids Okan's age have a hard time with the permanence of death. Who doesn't? Isn't it interesting that Okan speaks in Turkish when he thinks about Sedat or talks to Sedat?

Posted by alisacat at 10:15 PM 0 comments

We Miss You Terribly, Sedat


I don't even know how to write about this. I will have to keep a paper journal of all my Sedat memories and thoughts, to give to his kids, Okan and Onur, someday when they grow up.

Last Wednesday evening Sedat passed away suddenly in bed. It appears that it was an extreme allergic reaction to an antibiotic. From what we understand it is exceedingly rare that this would happen to someone, something like 1 in 20 million. Statistics, of course, are meaningless, when it happens to someone you love - no comfort there. I am still in denial, always expecting him to come in when we're all together, walk around the corner, call us. I keep seeing him everywhere I go: driving a car, walking into a store, coming out of the mosque. Every time I "see" him, it makes my heart stop. I remember after September 11 "seeing" Steve for months.

We've all been together since it happene, spending our time at Ozlem's mom & dad's house. Hundreds of people have come over to express their condoloences. Sedat is loved and respected by everyone who knows him. I have never heard anyone gossip o say a bad word about him. Ozlem is feeling the biggest weight of grief, and we are all trying our best to help her carry it. I would do anything to lift it off of her, and I am sure that Arzu, Gul, Reyhan, and all our friends would as well. We have found a some comfort in praying, it is something to focus on. Seda has been amazing how much she's helped me with the kids so that I can focus on Ozlem, and she has pitched in and helped a lot at Ozlem's mom's house as well. She is a gem. Ozlem's family and extended family is also strong and tightly-knit, such a blessing. Ozlem is strong and pulling herself together and keeping one foot going in front of the other. She rallies when her kids are around and gives them the same loving attention as before. She is already figuring out ways to cope - testimony to how resilient her spirit is. It won't take the pain and the loss away, but coping will enable her to live without him, somehow.

Sedat's siblings - Suat and Nazan - are pulling through somehow also, especially with the support of their souses (Hulya and Mustafa) and their friends. I marvel at all of them for being able to even breathe and think after this. God has some amazing plan for us all if people can endure this kind of loss and their spirits can triumph and keep going. Sedat's parents came from Turkey and of course they are just devastated. It just all breaks my heart - for every single member of his family, I am just heartbroken and deeply, profoundly sad.

The funeral was Sunday - a late burial because we waited for his parents to come. The day of the funeral I went with Ozlem to see him one last time before he was buried. It was only for a few seconds, but it was good for me. He looked peaceful, calm and so much like Sedat - that kind of Mona Lisa smile he has, his face relaxed, wrapped in a white burial shroud. It is a much better memory than the night in the hospital at the morgue with all of the hospital rescusitation equipment. At the burial the weather was almost warm, blue skies and sunny - good weather to remember Sedat by. Hundreds of his friends were there, praying, shoveling the earth back onto his grave, stacking stones around it. All of us were crying, everyone is just devastated. How can this wonderful man, beloved by all and with such a kind, peace-loving, nurturing spirit, be gone???

The kids are all dealing with this in different ways. Thursday night I got a lseep over with all of them (except Onur). We all slept piled up in my bed together, Baba was at the mosque holding vigil over Sedat. Friday and Staurday we got Deniz and Emir so Arzu could stay with Ozlem. My kids got so used to it that they ask me every day when is th enext sleepover. Big Okan, Deniz and Ilayda are pretty much the same age (a few months apart), and all of them have many questions. "Why did Sedat Amca die?" "When is he coming back?" are the most common, and they ask them over and over again. Just when they seem to understand that he isn't coming back, one of them will say something about next time they see Sedat Amca (uncle)... Big Okan is showing his grief, and Ozlem, in her amazing way, is counseling him through it. She's reading him books about it, talking to him and helping him with his feelings. Tell me, where does she get that strength and wisdom? She's amazing. Ilayda has started to have some deep sadness, and she says some profound things. The day after Sedat passed, she said to me, "Which Sedat, the Sedat I love or your doctor Sedat?" When she found out it's the one she loves, she said, "Big Okan's not going to have a Baba anymore. My Baba is going to have to help him a lot. I know Sedat Amca loves me, so I'm going to take good care of Big Okan, Sedat Amca would like that." She also refuses to sleep in her bed. She saidto me last night, "Sedat Amca went to bed and he died. I'm going to sleep with my Baba every night so he won't die." Sometimes she'll start crying and when you ask her why, she'll say "Because I'm afraid my Baba will die, like Big Okan's, and then I won't have a Baba too." Deniz has been having a lot of conversations at school and with her parents, and she is sad as well. They are all clearly working to get a grasp on this concept of death - something I can hardly understand at age 37 - how can we expect 4 year olds to get it?

The little guys, Onur, Emir and Little Okan also understand that there is something amiss and that there is sadness around them. Little Onur , for sure, feels the gap intensely, even though he might not be able to verbalize it. Little Okan talks about it a lot - repreating whatever he's heard us saying to the big kids. Sometimes I think he really gets it. Yetserday morning he was telling me about how he was kissing Onur Amca the night before: "I kiss my Onur Amca last night, I eat him all up. I not going to kiss my Sedat Amca anymore, he never coming back."

We took the kids to the funeral with us, and it was very sad. Ilayda and Deniz were glued to their Babas. I have been impressed by how loving the kids have been to Ozlem. They have given her a lot of love and affection, drawn her pictures and really been very affectionate. They know she is sad and they understand that kid-lovin' makes people feel better. Ilayda and Little Okan have both - totally independelty without me pushing - gone to Ozelm and said they love her and kissed and hugged her. Little Okan is quite observant about people crying: "You crying mommy? You crying because Sedat Amca died and you miss him? Ozlem Teyze crying because Sedat Amca died? Ozlem Teyze misses Sedat Amca so she cries?"

--sigh-- More later, my friends and family....

Posted by alisacat at 10:26 AM 0 comments

Sedat Abimiz

Our big brother Sedat is gone. Last night after 40 hours without sleep, I collapsed into bed with Ilayda, both Okans and Deniz. It occurred to me then that this may still be a nightmare - I went to bed in a foul mood because of work, and had a horrible, detailed nightmare. But then I awoke this morning, curled up with Big Okan, Sedat's son, and VROOM CRASH a ton of bricks fell on me with the realization that he is gone and we are all just devastated. I really mean devestated, destroyed. And that's nothing compared to how our sweet Ozlem is feeling. I go between shock and overwhelming grief, back and forth like a swing...

I know there will be much more to come on the blog - how the kids are, what they are saying and more. Right now I can only cry and say how much we miss you, Sedat Abi. However you conceive it, pray for us and him, everyone, please, we need it.

Posted by alisacat at 1:36 AM

SEDAT, SENI HICBIRZAMAN UNUTMAYACAGIZ.SEN HERZAMAN KALBIMIZDESIN...SEDAT,WE WILL NEVER FORGET YOU.YOU'RE ALWAYS IN OUR HEART...

Sedat Köseoğlu'nu Kaybettik

Kaptan Sedat Köseoğlu (42), Amoxicillin İsimli Antibiyotiği Aldıktan Sonra Dinlenmek İçin Gittiği Yatağından Bir Daha Kalkamadı.
Eşine Sahura Kaldır Dedi Ölü Bulundu.
New Jersey’de yaşayan 2 çocuk babası eski gemi kaptanı Sedat Köseoğlu (42), önceki gün soğuk algınlığı şikáyetiyle gittiği doktorun boğaz enfeksiyonuna karşı tavsiye ettiği ve daha önce de birkaç kez kullandığı Amoxicillin isimli antibiyotiği aldıktan sonra dinlenmek için gittiği yatağından bir daha kalkamadı.

Eşi tarafından yatağında ölü olarak bulunan Köseoğlu’nun yapılan otopsi sonrasında aldığı ilaca vücudunun verdiği aşırı alerjik reaksiyon ve bunu takip eden anafilaktik şokun etkisiyle kan basıncının sıfıra inmesi sonucu öldüğü bildirildi.

ERKEN KALKACAĞIM

Bir nakliye ve gümrükleme şirketinde çalışan Köseoğlu ölüme götüren olay şöyle gelişti. Köseoğlu önceki gün çalıştığı işyerine gittikten sonra kendisini aniden aşırı yorgun hissettiği için doktoruna gitti. Boğaz enfeksiyonu teşhisi konulduğu belirtilen Köseoğlu, iki çocuğunu okuldan alıp evine döndü. Bir süre evde çocuklarıyla oynayan Köseoğlu, daha sonra eşi Özlem Köseoğlu’na (31) yorgun olduğunu, erken yatacağını ancak kendisini sahura kaldırmasını söyledi. Doktorunun tavsiyesi ile Amoxicillin isimli antibiyotik ilaçtan içtiği belirtilen Köseoğlu, duş aldıktan sonra yatağına gitti. Eşi Özlem Hanım da uyumak için yatak odasına girdiğinde eşinin yataktaki cansız bedeniyle karşılaştı.

ALERJİK REAKSİYON

Köseoğlu’nun ölümüne neden olan anafilaktik şok, vücudun herhangi bir maddeye verebileceği en şiddetli alerjik reaksiyon olarak kabul ediliyor. Anafilaksi, ABD’de yılda en az bin kişinin ölümüne neden oluyor. Penisilin ve böcek ısırması bu reaksiyona en çok neden veren iki temel maddeyi oluşturuyor. Ani ölümüyle ailesi perişan olan Sedat Köseoğlu, bugün New Jersey, Paterson’daki Ulucami’de öğle namazı sonrası kılınacak cenaze namazının ardından yine New Jersey Totowa’da bulunan Türk mezarlığında toprağa verilecek.

DENKTAŞ’LI DÜĞÜN



Kayınpederi Sebahattin Oklu KKTC New York Temsilciliği’nde görev yapan Sedat Köseoğlu, 2002 yılında KKTC Eski Cumhurbaşkanı Rauf Denktaş’ın katıldığı törenle eşi Özlem Köseoğlu ile evlenmişti. Sedat Köseoğlu’nun eşi Özlem ise 11 Eylül teror saldırıları sırasında Dünya Ticaret Merkezi’nde çalışıyordu. İlk uçağın vurduğu binanın 54’üncü katındaki Morgan Stanley ofisinde bulunan Özlem Köseoğlu, merdivenleri hızla inerek ölümden kurtulmuştu. Çiftin Okan (5) ve Onur (2) isimli 2 çocukları bulunuyor.

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Agbim, Kardesim, Dostum, Babam ve my IDOL
Sedat Kapiton (ben hep boyle cagirirdim) icin yazilanlar ve gosterdiginiz sevgiden dolayi ailesi olarak tesekkurlerimizi iletiyorum. Allaha dua etmekten ve birbirimize destek vermekten baska bir sey yok malesefki, sanki Sedat is gezisinde de gelecek diye bekliyorum, bekliyecegim de,
Sedat icin yapilan okadar cok sey varki bunlardan biride;
http://www.sedatkoseoglu.blogspot.com/
bu web sitesini ozellikle Deniz Haberdeki meslektaslarininda bilmesini istedim,
selametle kalin


Suat Koseoglu/ 25-09-2007 18:12:11

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Bassagligi
Sedatin gulen yuzunu hic bir zaman unutmayacagiz.Cok beklenmedik, ve cok ani bir sekilde aramizdan ayrildi, ailesine ve sevenelerine sabir diliyoruz.

Eminim, cok daha iyi bir yerdedir.

Demet & Rich & Emre
Demet Bilter/ 24-09-2007 02:38:06

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ALLAH TAKSIRATINI AFFETSIN
SEDAT KOSEOGLU ARKADASIMI OKULDAN BERI GORMEMISTIM BUYUK SOK YASIYORUM INANAMIYORUM AILESINE BAS SAGLIGI DILIYORUM
ETHEM YALCIN ERDIN 19-09-2007 18:34:24
Nur içinde yat kardeşim
Sedatım, nur içinde yat kardeşim..Sen kalbi temiz iyi bir insandın..Mekanın cennet olsun..
Kemal Murat Güler 19-09-2007 04:41:36
başsağlığı
Çok sevdiğim sınıf arkadaşım Sedat Köseoğlu yine bütün iyi insanlar gibi aramızdan çok erken ayrıldın.allahtan rahmet ailene ve camiamıza sabırlar diliyorum.
AYKAN ORUÇ 18-09-2007 15:56:26
BAŞSAĞLIĞI
Her ölüm acıdır ve zamansızdır fakat Sedat ın ölümü gerçekten bu cümleye gerçek anlamını verdi beni ve eminimki diğer sınıf arkadaşlarımı çok üzdü,Onunla ilgili okul anılarım canlandı o kadar temiz bir arkadaşımızdıki okurken içki sigara nedir bilmezdi, Hatta bir yılbaşı Sedat ı rakı diye suyla körkütük sarhoş etmişlerdi sonrada bu hikayeyi sınıfta alay konusu yapmıştık.Sevgili Sedat a tanrıdan rahmet Kederli ailesine baş sağlığı dilerim

Ahmet Hulusi Tekin
ahmet hulusi tekin 18-09-2007 13:24:55

Denizyolları İşletmesinde beraber çalıştığımız Sedat'ın vefatını üzülerek öğrendim. Merhuma Allahtan rahmet, kederli ailesine sabırlar dilerim.
Yavuz KAB 17-09-2007 23:40:01
BAŞSAĞLIĞI
ÇOK SEVDİĞİM SINIF ARKADAŞIM OLAM MERHUMA ALLAHTAN RAHMET KEDERLİ AİLESİNE BAŞSAĞLIĞI VE SABIRLAR DİLİYOROM.MEKANI CENNET OLSUN.
RAMAZAN AÇIKGÖZ 17-09-2007 09:30:10

Sedat Melis'le.4 Eylul 2006...Sedat with Melis.September 4,2006

Sedat,Ozlem ve Kisa Ailesi 4 Eylul 2006.Sedat,Ozlem and Kisa Family.September 4,2006